Dl gay guys
There’s something about DL guys that excites the gay psyche.
But… why?!?
That’s a question many gays have tried–and failed–to answer over the years. The latest attempt came via the appropriately named “@CybrTwnk” on X. “why would anyone ever want a DL man.. what is the appeal,” he posted.
How about we take this to the next level?
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The simple inquiry garnered thousands of impassioned reactions, ranging from the amused to outraged.
“dl men are for the gay boys who wanna notice like girls…” said one particularly mean, yet possibly exact commenter.
Cruising no longer requires surreptitious late-night trips to the park or roaming around skeevy bathhouses. All one needs is a smart phone and thumbs!
Then–voila!–an entire city is at one’s sticky fingertips.
And finding the forbidden fruit can be especially adorable . We often fantasize about who we can’t have: celebrities, gym crushes, friends’ boyfriends… friends’ ex-boyfriends! The same thinking extends on both ends of the DL trade.
Why Are Gay Guys Obsessed With DL Dudes?
10.19.22
Written by Zachary Zane
I never used to understand my friends’ obsession with fucking down-low or DL men (straight-identifying men, often with wives or girlfriends, who actively seek surreptitious sexual encounters with other guys). Why would I want to hook up with a closeted guy? Why would I want to notice like I’m going back in the closet? I also couldn’t help but feel at least a little bad for their female partners, who they were lying to and cheating on. And frankly, I felt poor for the guys, too. Wouldn’t they be happier if they came out? Isn’t perpetually hiding your sexuality—who you are—exhausting?
I also felt the attraction unhealthily fetishized masculinity. My friends think DL guys are “hotter” because they present more masculine and traditionally “straight.” DL guys are deemed more “manly” because they fuck women. (Not true! I fuck plenty of women as a bi guy, and I can tell you confidently I am not more manly than any of the gayest faggots out there!)
Still, I never judged, or at least I didn’t convey my judgment to them. I also knew th
‘On the DL’: The sexual politics of sleeping with closeted guys
My mom lives in Westchester County, New York, a place that is most acknowledged for being the home of the Clintons’, and the last place Robert Durst’s wife was seen alive. After COVID-19 touched down in America, I was forced to move out of my dorm and back into my childhood bedroom, which sat unchanged since I went to college three years ago; when I peeled my Lana Del Rey poster off the wall—to make room for a calendar I impulse-bought—I discovered that the tape had started to mold. I told myself I would operate this time to be productive: I’d finally start the columns I had been planning to write, I’d acquire back into knowledge French, and, finally, I’d teach myself how to skateboard. Instead, I spent most of my time on my bed and scrolling through Grindr.
For the uninitiated, Grindr is a dating app primarily geared towards queer men, although it also welcomes trans-women and agender people. It markets itself as a “social media app,” Grindr is most commonly used for casual sex—there’s no swiping, and no “it’s a match!”-ing. When you unlock up Grindr, you are presented with a grid of little profile photos, and you ca
The Freddie Guide to: DL Guys
For some people, coming out is easy and breezy. For others, it can take longer and be more complicated. Homophobia and stigma still unfortunately exist – these can make some guys uncomfortable being open about their sex and dating life.
On apps like Grindr you might come across blank profiles labelled "DL" or "discreet". But what should you know about matchmaking app or hooking up with them? And if you're still in the closet, how can you form sex safer?
Read on for Freddie’s guide to surpass sex and relationships, whether you’re DL yourself or dating someone who is.
What does DL mean?
The DL is short for “down-low”. It means when something is kept secret or hidden. In the gay community, it refers to men who identify as straight but have sex with other men.
Some DL men may be in relationships with women and having sex with or dating men on the side. Some may be single. Either way, they keep this part of their sex life a secret.
In gay slang, “DL” started as a designation that referred to African-American men. It’s now more widely used and can refer to men of all races and ethnic backgrounds.
Is DL different from discreet?