In a gay wedding who walks down the aisle

Traditions to Ditch for Your Same-Sex Wedding

Planning a wedding can be overwhelming when you think about all the decisions you’ve got to make. As a same-sex couple, you may have lots of questions about how to produce your wedding experience like your hold when so many traditions are aimed at heterosexual couples. Today we’ve picked six traditions to ditch for your same-sex wedding. We’ve provided details about where these traditions come from and some fabulous alternatives for you to consider! The general message we’ve got for you today is this: you do you. Pick the traditions you want to retain and ditch the others. Sit down together and labor out what you want your wedding to look like!

 

The proposal

In a gay marriage, you might be wondering “who asks whom?”. It’s a valid doubt with a basic answer: it’s up to you! Below, we’ll break down the tradition, its origins and some alternatives to consider.

Tradition: The groom requests permission from the bride’s parents to partner her. He then pops the interrogate with a surprise proposal that usually involves him getting down on one knee and giving the bride a ring

When it comes to planning a same-sex wedding in Ireland, couples have a lot of innovative freedom. After all, without traditional gender roles, you can jerk up the rules and execute away with stuffy conventions that don’t suit your personalities or beliefs. It’s all about creating a celebration of love that is completely your own. But which traditions should you slip completely and which can you re-imagine? Who walks down the aisle first, and who ‘gives them away’? Is there still a best man’s speech? Is there still a best man? As an Irish wedding planner, I’ve worked on some fantastic same-sex destination weddings. Each is as unique as the couple it celebrates, but over the years, I have found that there are some traditions that lend themselves especially to reinvention. Here are seven of them!

Bridesmaids and groomsmen. According to The Knot, less than half of same-sex couples choose to acquire a wedding party. But, while having no attendants is one option, you could also opt for a mixed wedding party that does away with traditional gender roles. It’s all about having the people you adore and who love you by your side, whether that means bridesmaids, groomsmen, bridesmen, groomsmaids,

How to Walk Down the Aisle in a Gay or Lesbian Wedding Without Regrets 

 

By Lindsey Scott Carlson

There are no hard-and-fast rules in any wedding—just people’s opinions, some of which make more feeling than others. If you want to have a traditional processional in your wedding, here are some ideas on how to make it happen:

  • The officiant takes his or her place first, sometimes accompanied by one of the people getting married and his or her honor attendants.
  • After all of your wedding guests have been seated, the family can be escorted down the aisle one by one by your ushers (one or two close friends or family members you’ve designated ahead of time). The last person to be escorted in this category should be the people who are sitting closest to the altar—usually your parents, grandparents or the elders you’re closest to.
  • Next, the wedding party, two by two or one by one. No need to mix and match genders, but sometimes height matching can peer nice for photos. 
  • Then, the flower girl or lad, and the ring bearer. Some couples also own a little tyke carrying a sign reading, “Here come the brides.” Or “Here come the

    Who Walks Down the Aisle and Who Waits at the Altar in a Lesbian Wedding? 

    Who walks down the aisle, who waits at the altar, does it matter if you’re in a suit or a dress? What’s correct for our gay wedding?

    Who walks down the hallway, who waits at the altar, does it matter if you’re in a suit or a dress? What’s exact for our same-sex attracted wedding? For background, both my fiancée and I are wearing simple pale wedding dresses. Neither of us are particularly butch or femme.

    Jenny M.

    Dear Jenny,

    The beauty of gay weddings—well, there’s much that’s gorgeous about our weddings—but at the core of planning one is that it is a celebration of love and a lifetime vow between two consenting adults. It is not a unbent wedding, yet we can look to the history of their weddings for traditions we need to keep and, similarly, things we’re not interested in claiming as our own. That existence said, how you approach the altar is up to you. I’ve seen lesbian brides saunter up holding hands.

    In our Valid Weddings section, we feature two butch brides, Stephanie and Julie, who walked up separately with their fathers. We also showcase Jonath